Lost my virginity same sex

It should come as no surprise to Broadly readers that most of the world is organized around men. A man, Jacques Derrida, even created the word to express the idea: phallogocentrism. In short, the phallus defines the world, and for millennia it has defined sex. The insertion of a penis into a woman has been the defining line between virginity and its absence.

After I hooked up with someone, I snuck out of bed and into the darkness of my balcony, alone. Hoping for an answer, I texted: Am I still a virgin if I had sex with a girl? She, as the older, long-time queer in the hookup, had the upper hand. After all, what did I know about the rules of girl-on-girl sex, let alone what counts as losing your virginity? Could it be sex if only half of the people involved thought it was?

Mostly, though, it's hard to imagine what sex will actually be like when it happens — beyond what you learned in sex education class. That's why we talked to 24 people to find out exactly what first time sex was like, and what they wished they'd known going in. Before we dive into their real-life experiences, let's set the record straight: Below are some of the most common questions people ask about virginity. What does losing your virginity mean?

I was 19 when I first had full-on sex with another man. I was at college, living in dorms, and the experience—aside from the usual horrifying awkwardness and somewhat spontaneity of the occasion—was completely and utterly unremarkable aside from one thing: the guy I slept with identified as straight. It was late or early, depending on your outlook on the world when I was joined by the boy who was living in the room next to mine, way back on the other side of the building.